Forgiveness

By AF

Learning to forgive can be difficult in the beginning when you are not used to forgiving.
But when you learn to forgive a person for mistreatment, hurt or pain, or maybe it
Could be forgiven that person for their past decision or decisions that you may despise.

Whichever it maybe you will feel a lot better about yourself, improve your character and learn
To appreciate life’s tribulations and strife, because each 1 we learn from and become wiser and stronger.

A few years back I learned to forgive my father, which I did over the phone.
It had come to me one night that people only do what they know how to do.
My father wasn’t able to be a good father figure, because he was not taught how to be one.
Nor did he experience the things a good father teaches their child, so he wasn’t able to display fatherly qualities.

I felt real good to get it off of my chest, that it allowed my father and I to develop a solid friendship.
Growing up I would’ve never believed one day I would forgive him.

But there is 1 person I wish I would have forgiven before she passed away
Last year, it was the lady who raised me, my grandma.
I drove her crazy with my criminal lifestyle,
Truly I regret it.

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29 Comments

  1. Kayla on October 18, 2022 at 11:02 PM

    I related to this poem a lot. My mom and I have an extremely rocky relationship, where she struggles with alcoholism and takes it out on me. I love her so dearly and one day I’ll be able to forgive her and I’m building towards that goal to forgive her. I am so glad you were able to forgive your father, I think it takes remembering that they have a past that has affected them and they struggle with their own inner demons, just like us. It’s hard to see past your own biases when forgiving someone and its still hard for me, but you’ve reminded me to do it before its too late and you also reminded me do think of their demons, so thank you.

  2. HL on October 20, 2022 at 3:42 PM

    Hi AF! Your poem was really emotionally impactful and packed full of profound life lessons, equal parts heartwarming and heartbreaking. It illustrates not only your astonishing personal growth as a person, but also your innate sense of free-verse poetic structure. The fact that you learned how to forgive your father despite the hardships you faced together is truly eye-opening and leaves a warm fuzzy feeling in me while reading it, knowing that the past was left in the past and you and your father were able to move forward and forge a close relationship. Of course regret is a deep, difficult emotion to grapple with, and the pain of losing a loved one is hard to bear, but I’m confident you will be able to find forgiveness for yourself and your grandma in the same way you forgave your father, because regardless of circumstances, family members love each other unconditionally, no matter what, though the rough times and the good times. This poem was incredibly cathartic to read, and the fact that you’re channeling these strong emotions through beautifully written poetry makes for a very rewarding reading experience. Please keep up writing like this!!

  3. Halie on October 20, 2022 at 5:28 PM

    Forgiving is very hard to do specifically when somebody so close to you or you loved is the one you have to forgive. But forgiving feels good knowing you can finally just let what happened be in the past. Amazing job telling the story and tapping into that emotion.

  4. KC on October 21, 2022 at 2:31 PM

    AF,

    Thank you for your vulnerability. It takes a lot of self-awareness and grace to forgive those that hurt us. I admire you for this! Keep writing!

  5. Jaxson Pawlowski on October 23, 2022 at 1:59 PM

    This is a great story and amazing writing for a powerful purpose; teaching us to forgive and why. I am glad you got to reconnect with your father, it hit home for me because I grew up mostly without my father so I worry for any future children that I may not know how to be a father but I don’t want them to suffer for it.

    I think forgiveness is a powerful skill we possess as humans and more powerful than most realize! Again, great writing, and I hope more people can learn to forgive!

    ~JP

  6. Mackenzie Curry on October 23, 2022 at 2:54 PM

    Hi AF!
    This poem was truly inspiring, and I felt as if I learned a lot from this. As someone that has a lot of people screw me over, I believe I need to learn how to forgive just as you did. I never realized how impactful forgiving someone is for yourself. I liked how it was short yet to the point and I knew exactly what you were trying to say. I really appreciate you letting me able to read this. Usually, poetry doesn’t have this sort of impact on me, but this poem really impacted me and the way I am going to go about the rest of my thought processes. Please continue to write poems you have no idea how powerful they really are and who they can really help!

  7. Conor Thompson on October 23, 2022 at 4:16 PM

    Hey AF I really loved the poem that you have created here! Forgiveness is a big thing for me in my family especially the times we are living in now. You are speaking here with such passion and in such inspiration for just something that is a basic need for our society. People now a days are just very frustrated for no reason whatsoever. I hope you continue writing poems, you are doing such a great job!

  8. Jill on October 23, 2022 at 4:59 PM

    I really liked this poem and how told a strong message. Forgiveness is often hard for many people but we cannot hold a grudge forever. Although it may be hard forgiving those around us can lift the weight off of our shoulders and create peace within ourselves which can make it easier to heal moving forward. Great job and keep up the great work!

  9. Alexis on October 23, 2022 at 6:23 PM

    AF,

    I love and appreciate your mindset about forgiveness. As people, it can be hard to forgive when someone has done us wrong and impacted us negatively, but we have to ask ourselves if the grudge we hold towards those is worth it. As you say in your poem, forgiving is not just for the other parties but also for ourselves. Whether we forgive and include the person in our life again, or forgive to clear the air, it makes us feel better within. You mention how forgiveness is a sign of strength, and I agree with you completely about how it helps us grow as people and relief that anger we have. I enjoyed reading your personal story on this topic too. I am so proud of you for being able to forgive your father after what he put you through in your life. Not many people can reason with why someone treated them wrongly, but you understand why he wasn’t able to be the solid father figure you needed. Although it may not fix what he has done to you, you still are able to understand this is the best he could do. Forgiving him has relieved a lot of tension for the both of you it seems and I am happy to read you guys have a solid bond now, even if it wasn’t easy in the beginning. On the other hand, I am truly sorry to hear about the regret of the situation with your Grandma. I may not know your grandma or the exact situation, but I have a feeling she may have had a mindset like your own, and know you would’ve wanted to clear the air with her someday. I am sure someday, somewhere, somehow this tension will be relieved for you as well.

  10. Emily on October 23, 2022 at 10:05 PM

    I’m glad you were able to forgive. You’re very right , forgiveness is hard. It’s hard to forgive someone who hurt you or a loved one. The poem actually felt more like a speech to me rather than a poem. But I like it. The only thing I don’t like is the uppercase c in Change. All of the other lines are lowercase when it is apart of a phrase.

  11. Julia Santosuosso on October 23, 2022 at 11:08 PM

    Thank you so much for sharing your work. These words are so important to hear and spread genuinely. So many people move about their lives in such a strong state of anger or resentment towards one or more people in their lives rather than focusing on how that may impact them and their own character/actions. And what you said about truly feeling better about yourself once you learn to forgive others, I completely agree. I also feel as though forgiving others just allows me to feel better about the world and my life altogether. All in all I am so happy that I was able to find your poem because I think we all need this reminder somethimes. Thank you once again.

  12. Grace on October 24, 2022 at 10:27 AM

    I really loved your poem – I resonated with it with my own past experience and you were able to articulate your feelings in a clear, poetic way. Thank you for writing it 🙂

  13. Paul on October 24, 2022 at 4:14 PM

    Forgiveness is amazing. I’m sorry you didn’t get to apologize to your grandmother. Seek happiness in the relationship you are rebuilding.

    Thank you for sharing.

  14. Tiff on October 25, 2022 at 10:56 AM

    Forgiveness, both of others and of ourselves, is such a powerful thing and sometimes we don’t realize it until we suffer loss. Your grandma would be so proud of you for looking inward and allowing your heart to learn forgiveness so try not to let the burden of regret weigh you down like an anchor. Thank you for your beautiful and touching words!

  15. EH on October 25, 2022 at 4:16 PM

    AF,

    You seem to have an incredible perspective on life. Many people like to call themselves forgiving, but most, myself included, would draw a line somewhere, because that’s ‘easier’ than forgiving those who truly hurt us. It takes immense will power to be the first one to reach in the way that you did with your father, and that truly puts a smile on my face reading of your re-built relationship. It’s heartbreaking to read of your grandmother, but I’d personally like to believe that her soul might feel your forgiveness and love for her, and that she is at peaceful rest seeing you turn everything around for the better. You’ve made me think twice about my own life and relationships, & I thank you for that.

  16. Prince Arora on October 26, 2022 at 2:50 PM

    The poem definitely resonated with me as we try to carry grudges and it is very difficult to forgive a person who has wronged you but having a reason that this is what they know best is an amazing pov to make peace and move on. Thanks for this.

  17. Meghan on October 27, 2022 at 11:31 AM

    I really enjoy the layout and organization of this poem. I like how you described what forgiveness is in the first stanza, then how you gave an example about your father and your grandma. As a reader, I feel the emotion and sadness in your poem which is a really good writing element. Just know that your grandma is looking down at you from heaven, and watching you change yourself into a better person!

  18. Ainsley on October 27, 2022 at 3:05 PM

    Hi AF,
    I loved reading this poem. I think the message it sends about learning to forgive no matter how difficult it may be, and how forgiving makes a difference for not only the person being forgiven, but yourself. I know from experience as someone who held grudges for a very long time that eventually, holding these grudges and feeling so negatively towards others begins to cause you to feel negative and even angry. I really enjoyed hearing about how you were able to find it in yourself to forgive your father, and the way you were understanding of why he lacked in certain aspects. I think something we often forget as people is that we may not see the people we’re fighting with again, and to consider if that grudge is worth holding, or if forgiveness is on the table. I’m so sorry to hear about your grandmother, but I’m happy you were able to forgive your father in time to repair and maintain your relationship. Thank you so much for sharing,
    Ainsley

  19. ken on October 30, 2022 at 4:46 PM

    Thank you so much for opening up to us and telling us about your past. This message is so powerful. It is very difficult to forgive people but once you do you feel a weight lifted off of you! This was such a good poem. Readers can really feel what you were feeling when you wrote this. It is so powerful and meaningful to you and I appreciate you writing about it. Keep up the GREAT work and never stop writing!!

  20. Lucy Elliott on November 2, 2022 at 12:55 PM

    Very honest and raw. Appreciate the emotions and growth. Keep writing and growing!

  21. Abigail Walsh on November 8, 2022 at 11:50 AM

    This poem tells a story and leaves a powerful message about forgiveness. It starts out with a clear message showing the difficulty of forgiving which sets out the message as more powerful for the author forgiving their father. Being able to forgive their father shows the importance of forgiveness and the impact on their life. The line that growing up they never believed they could do this shows the importance of a relationship with family and shows forgiveness as a strong family value. The last line about regret sticks with the reader and evokes emotion. This poem is very well done giving the reader a story and life lesson.

  22. Samantha Haviland on November 8, 2022 at 10:09 PM

    Hello there, I enjoyed reading your poem. I think your writing displays how difficult it is to forgive a person who was supposed to be there for us throughout our lifetime, like a parent. In some ways it is impossible to raise a child without screwing them up in some way, yet sometimes parents are absent in a way that scars us permanently. As far as your grandmother, I believe she knew that you loved her, despite the way that you may or may not have showed it. I think her stepping in to help raise you shows that. Nice job.

  23. Natalia on November 13, 2022 at 11:30 PM

    As I read this poem, I found myself being very reflecting from the impact your writing has on me as a reader. I cannot relate to this specific scenario, but myself and a large audience can understand the idea of forgiveness and how important it is. I found I related to your idea that “people only do what they know how to do.” I think this is true for every person and it can be very hard to understand and live with at times and can take a long time to come to this conclusion in relationships. But this does not make our feeling invalid or wrong. The most important part of these feelings is the reflection and forgiveness afterwards as you have put into words in this poem.

  24. Janashya Napier on November 14, 2022 at 10:25 PM

    I absolutely agree with this poem, forgiveness can be hard for some people and when you’re ready to forgive it be too late.

  25. Kristen Shave on November 16, 2022 at 1:27 PM

    I love this poem! A possible modification could be changing “1” to “one”. There is lots of emotion built up within this poem and you can feel it in each line. Forgiveness is a difficult concept to capture, but I feel you did it well. Great work!

  26. McKenzie Gordon on November 17, 2022 at 11:52 AM

    I think this is an essential message, and I love how you put it. It is touching yet persuasive. I love the relation to a personal event.

  27. Crystal E. on November 20, 2022 at 10:42 AM

    Your poem Forgiveness is beautifully written and speaks to the regrets we all experience in life when it comes to managing family relationships. My sincere condolences on the loss of your grandmother. I sense that this poem will reach her and that you are forgiven.

  28. Victoria on November 20, 2022 at 2:15 PM

    I love the honesty that you exhibit within this poem. Forgiveness can be truly excruciating, difficult beyond belief. But when you allow yourself to forgive, the lightness that overtakes you is nearly impossible to describe, and you articulated that so well.

  29. Devyn Payne on November 22, 2022 at 10:27 AM

    To forgive someone is honestly a hard pill to swallow. Especially when you have grown to resent and hate them for so many years. However, to read and hear your story I was able to see you overcome an obstacle and let forgiveness consume you rather than hatred for another.

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